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Dear Abby Asked by Dear Abby
11/22/2021

Who comes first, friends or family?

14%
Friends

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86%
Family WINNER

29

14%
Friends

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LP Simmons
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LP Simmons

SO HAPPY THAT MY FAMILY DOESN'T HAVE MY ADDRESS. YOU CAN TELL A FRIEND NO! FAMILY DOESN'T UNDERSTAND NO. FAMILY DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT NO MEANE

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Beth Holland
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Beth Holland

It depends on the commitment.

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JamieLee LaCombe
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JamieLee LaCombe

Unless referring to my spouse and children, I say friends bc I don't have much for family to even say they come first.

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Cat Houston
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Cat Houston

Depends on the family.

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laure
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laure

You can choose your friends, you can't choose your family. Yet sometimes your family is a friend- and those family members and friends come first.

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Aliakbar R.N
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Aliakbar R.N

because my friends are my choice and our thought are very close to each other,so I and my friends all would get together but my family had been chosen not by me!

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arielnola
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arielnola

Friends are family to some people. My parents are dead. My sister and i are estranged. I adore my cousins but we aren't close. I spend Christmas with an old friend, and Thanksgiving with a group (not this year, of course).

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Kelly Zabel
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Kelly Zabel

I've had more loyalty come from my friends than from my own family.

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kumari de silva
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kumari de silva

You can’t chose your family so i owe them no loyalty- my dad is toxic. But friends i chose for a reason

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Robert Davidson
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Robert Davidson

Friends are the family I choose.

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86%
Family

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Bob Pickett
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Bob Pickett

but, always but, some friends are more than family

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rover6rover
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rover6rover

Obviously. We both still have a parent alive, and there are some important responsibilities.

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Joyce Koch
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Joyce Koch

blood is thicker than water.

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Shelley Green
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Shelley Green

But I have friends he does not. He is a home body. But all my friends like him.

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Lyzey Roman
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Lyzey Roman

Some members of family come first but I won't gamble my life for many of them. However I have many friends that are more like family and show up faster than any family member.

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Jimmy Lancaster
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Jimmy Lancaster

i said family because some of my friends are my chosen family and some of my family are almost frenameys

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Tina Bouthillier
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Tina Bouthillier

Only my kids come 1st, everybody else NOT!

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MissTaz Richardson
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MissTaz Richardson

I've always been close to my family, so second to my household they do come first.

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Traci Snow
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Traci Snow

It kind of depends on who the family & friends are, but for the most part, my husband, mother, nephew, sister, & in-laws qlways come first. After that, it would be certain friends, & then the rest of my family.

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Lisa Zambito
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Lisa Zambito

In my family, yes. But I do know of some where family members have become estranged, and friends are more like family than relatives.

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Julie Brantley
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Julie Brantley

Because what we invest in family will always come back on us -

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Carol Rademacher
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Carol Rademacher

Family and close friends, always try and be there.

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LaAnastasia DeLaBeaverhousen
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LaAnastasia DeLaBeaverhousen

I only have two family members so yes, they come first

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Mahta Mouse
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Mahta Mouse

Friends change, while family stays.

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Charlene Garcia
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Charlene Garcia

They have to come first... Bottom line.

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Tiffany Zumwalt
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Tiffany Zumwalt

Because family is always family. Friends can come and go but your family is forever.

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Michelle Testut
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Michelle Testut

This is a hard one. I have friends who are like family. Some I've literally known just as long. My best friend and I use to crawl up and down the sidewalk together before we could walk. We are now in our 50's.

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Jane
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Jane

Always family. Husband, children. Then friends.

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D May
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D May

I say family but truthfully that is only how I feel. They don't.

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Amy Bagnall
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Amy Bagnall

Their are people that hopefully, one or more would be there for you if you needed them. I think that’s true in most families, but for some, the parent says- you’re grown up- take care of it your self. And siblings who also take that same attitude, despite all the sacrifices you have made for them.

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Bre valenzuela
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Bre valenzuela

I think some friend sare like family but family does not end but friends do so family before friends.

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Lrac Snave
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Lrac Snave

Blood is thicker than water. I have a few close friends; but I have lots of family.

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Pamela Kaye
Pamela Kaye

FYI the full line is "blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." It literally means family comes second :)

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Do your holiday decorations come down quickly or not so quickly?

Quickly

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Not so quickly

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Quickly

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Ry Kali
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Ry Kali

They fo up by Thanksgiving weekend and down by New Year's Day. We are tired of them by then, anyway.

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Lrac Snave
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Lrac Snave

If you don't put any holiday decorations up, you can "take them down" quickly.

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Not so quickly

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Joyce Koch
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Joyce Koch

I' m in no hurry, haven't had enough time to do the job completely.

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rover6rover
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rover6rover

January 21st the ornaments came off the tree, 22nd the lights came off, 23rd it went out the door. Haven't unplugged the porch lights yet -- they still come on for a few hours when it gets dark!

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