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Dear Abby Asked by Dear Abby
11/25/2019

Which is the most appropriate way to express sympathy?

5%
Email

4

95%
Handwritten card WINNER

17

5%
Email

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CASSANDRA JUGEAT
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CASSANDRA JUGEAT

this how most responded following the inceidnet

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Elizabeth Evans
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Elizabeth Evans

They receive your thoughts much more quickly than a handwritten letter. Words written in an email can be just as sincere and warm as words written by hand. Plus, my handwriting is horrible.

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Patricia Shiku
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Patricia Shiku

Because we are so busy these days. It’s the world we live. A hand card has to personally be delivered and time is important

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Harmony Granger
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Harmony Granger

Anyone who actually cares is antiquated. Sympathy is sympathy.

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95%
Handwritten card

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kaycstamper
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kaycstamper

I make my own cards and like to custom make something appropriate, it shows the thought that went into it and it's personal. Hand delivered is faster than mailing.

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Angie Turney
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Angie Turney

The more personal it is the better the sad ppl feel u actually care

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Suz Smith
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Suz Smith

Email is as coldhearted as a keyboard. A card or letter with condolences and memories requires thought and conveys love.

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Patrick McDaniel
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Patrick McDaniel

A handwritten card shows that one has actually put some thought and effort into the reply.

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Bobbie Waldo
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Bobbie Waldo

The most valuable thing you have to offer is your time. Unlike $$, it's unreplenishable. Once spent, it's gone, so spend it wisely by knowing when to spend it on someone else (spend time - get card).

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Carolyn Morris
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Carolyn Morris

It's More Expressive And Personal

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Natasha Prim
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Natasha Prim

Im old school, if I have your address, I'm sending a card. If I can drop one off I will.

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judith corey
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judith corey

either is alright, but for me to offer condolences to someone, I like to write them a handwritten card or letter

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Jennifer
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Jennifer

I would send a card, but sometimes email is the best way to reach someone. It really depends.

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Jane
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Jane

Handwritten is always more cherished and you can hold onto it for years if you decide to.

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Joyce Koch
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Joyce Koch

It's the polite thing to do.

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Susan Mclaughlin
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Susan Mclaughlin

It's more sincere and personal

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Ashley E Scanlan
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Ashley E Scanlan

If you have access to someone's home or work address and can send a physical card, I think that is the most meaningful and sincere during a time of grieving.

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Merrissa Wenger
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Merrissa Wenger

Anything you physically write or create has more value than a simple electronic message. I still have every card I have ever been given. I cherish them. Sentiment is priceless. -skyscrapper

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Rachel Crosby
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Rachel Crosby

My husband died a week ago. I feel overwhelmed by the texts and emails, and won't remember most of them later. Just send a dang card and let the ones in mourning choose when to read it.

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